Sunday, May 10, 2009

The Best Title in the World

For most of my childhood and early adult life, my primary aspiration was to be a mother. Still, after all the mellowing that age, reality and experience has accomplished, being a mom remains the title of which I am most proud. Maybe that is why this Autism File project appeals to me so much. As soon as I received it from Jeneil at Rhema's Hope, I got on the line, as it were, to organize a shoot here in San Diego. Oh Lord, "I want to be in that number!! When the saints go marching in..." was my theme song that day.

Maybe it's because of the campaign's edge. It's more Helen Reddy than Hallmark. It doesn't sugar-coat motherhood when autism is involved. As lovely and feminine as these women are, behind each one is a story of struggle, sorrow, hard work, loss, small victories and endless hope. The undefined yet undeniable details of their story make them all the more beautiful. To those of us in the same boat, the camaraderie is palpable. Proclaiming our reality focuses our force, strengthens our activism, magnifies our moxie, and generates gratitude for guts and grit.

The sermon this morning resonated with a related truth. Using the story of Ruth and Naomi as the springboard, our pastor pointed out that sorrow can form our deepest relationships. Both women are widowed, penniless, and destitute. Sharing this struggle bonded them more than any family parties or good times they'd ever had. How true. This would explain why I feel such kinship with each face and every far corner of the earth on this video. Women I've never had coffee with, never walked with, never partied with, but who I feel I know at a deep level.

Of course, the end of the story is that God blesses Ruth's faithfulness (to Him and her mother-in-law Naomi), with another husband, and a child who gives her place in the lineage of King David and Jesus of Nazareth. Not bad for a family that almost ended completely with 2 homeless beggar women!

I pray He will do the same for each of you "autism mothers" reading this. May God bless your faithfulness to Him and your family for generations to come.

Now, when are you taking a portrait in your 'hood?

Do a favor and win a friend forever; nothing can untie that bond.
Proverbs 18:18-20 The Message

Don't burn out; keep yourselves fueled and aflame. Be alert servants of the Master, cheerfully expectant. Don't quit in hard times; pray all the harder.
Romans 12:10-12 The Message

God reward you well for what you've done—and with a generous bonus besides from God, to whom you've come seeking protection under his wings.
Ruth 2:10-12


  1. Wow, thank you for articulating exactly what I was feeling as I watched that video. It still amazes me that I can feel such a connection to women I have never met... and yet I know them to some degree.

    This idea always reminds me of Heb. 2:17 - that Christ was willing to put on humanity and know our sorrows. Why? For deeper relationship.

    Happy Mother's Day, sister and friend.

  2. Hi,

    I know your brother David from Parkside Church. I also have a son with autism. I am so happy that I finally looked you up here. It is so refreshing to hear from another believer who walks this same struggle.

    Happy Mother's Day to you.

    Barb Fox